working & parenting & a green dress
Alright, it’s been a while since I’ve shared a style-focused post on the blog, so I figured I’d be honest with y’all: I’ve been struggling to find the balance between motherhood and working.
As most of you know, I’ve been at home with Milo since he was born, and I’ve been blogging and creating content basically whenever I have time. I am constantly thinking of things I want to write about, and as a mom there is certainly no shortage of interesting moments to share! 🤪 But I find whenever I sit down to write, there’s a screaming toddler demanding my attention.
I know there are parents who do it, and do it well. The whole, working from home while parenting thing. I would love to know what their secret is.
Milo is so active, especially at this age, I really can’t take my eyes off of him for more than a few moments (if any of you saw the macaroni story from last week.. 🤦🏼♀️). So, I’m basically left with the time he’s asleep - whether early morning, nap time, or after he goes to bed at night - to do what I need to do. Which is why I’m frequently up past midnight doing laundry. Why is there always so much laundry???
During nap time is usually when I attempt to get some work done, or feed myself. There uuusually isn’t time for both.. unless I have leftovers in the fridge, and he takes an extra long nap. 😂😂 I’ve been trying to do more food prep lately, to avoid grabbing at junk food and random toddler snacks, and this seems to be a good practice. The trick however, will be staying on top of it... stay tuned.
You might be wondering what my day looks like. Surely, taking care of a toddler while working can’t be all that complicated! Well, let’s break it down, shall we?
7am: I attempt to wake up before him so that I can shower. I am still mastering this skill. I shower on average 3-4 times per week.
8am: Milo wakes up. I change him, let him play with his toys.
8:02am: First tantrum of the day. Why? The train isn’t ..training the way he wants? 🤔 We will now have a time out, where I will explain that it’s not nice to scream and throw toys, and if he wants to play trains, he has to play nicely. We hug and resume the game.
8:05am: Second tantrum.
“Okay, are you hungry? What would you like for breakfast? Eggs?”
*shakes head no.*
*shakes head no*
*shakes head no*
“Okay, what would you like?”
He will then point to the cupboard where we keep his fruit & veggie pouches, because he is obsessed with fruit & veggie pouches. I mean, I guess it could be worse. But some days I feel like my entire existence is trying to get him to eat something other than those damn pouches.
I’m now realizing it will take me hours to type out the whole day, but anyways I think you get the picture. There are a lot of tantrums, time outs, and arguing with him about what to eat. His vocabulary is still pretty limited so I think this is a major source of frustration for him. Though, he has started to imitate quite a lot of words so I’m realllly going to have to start watching my language!! 🤐
The bottom line is, you can do it all, but you can’t do it all well. I really really wanted to be the one to watch Milo - more than anything. So I’m doing my best to make it work. I have to prioritize differently each day. Every morning I make a to-do list, and I pretty much never cross everything off. But I cross some things off, and that’s what’s important!
Some days laundry is the most pressing task, other days it’s editing photos. I try to stay on top of my IG posting schedule, but my blog has fallen behind. Most of the time, I’d rather be there to see Milo learn a new word (he just learned “car”), than be buried behind my keyboard all day (although sometimes I still am because #deadlines!!) I think the key is to just do your best, each day. And your best is different from my best, but whatever that looks like for you, know you are doing a good job! As parents we really are our harshest critics (and sometimes strangers can be too 🙄🙄), but if your kid is happy and healthy, you’re doing fine. YOU ARE DOING AWESOME. (I’m telling you, but I’m also telling myself ...bc we all need to hear it sometimes!)
So I’m going to be making more of an effort to schedule in “blog time”, and this will hopefully be the first of many new, exciting, fashionable and hilarious posts. Btw, I’m currently sitting in the tub, if you’re wondering when the blog time will fit in...
This is an uber affordable dress that I wore on our recent New York trip, and I’ve linked it along with a bunch of similar & equally wallet-friendly styles below! 👇🏻 Ps. it also comes in an amazing python print!!
I paired the dress with a black wide-brimmed fedora and black sock booties for an easy city vibe, and I think this would work with many of the styles below. You could also dress up this style by swapping the matching belt for one with a big buckle, or dress it down by ditching the belt altogether, and throwing a big oversized cardigan over top! Let me know what you think! Xo